On February 2nd, 2023 My whole life was flipped upside down. I had found out very late in my pregnancy that I was even pregnant as it is very hard for my husband and I to get pregnant. When I finally did a at home test and confirmed with Dubuque OBGYN, I was already a little over 10 weeks. That is when Dubuque OB recommend me to Iowa City due to my BMI being too high to be seen in Dubuque. Iowa City called to set up an appointment but with my schedule with work and then with being out of town on vacation I was not going to be able to see them for about another 7ish weeks. Mind you everything at my Dubuque appointment had been fine heartbeat was great, baby looked great, was measuring bigger than when I was saying I conceived. Although the Dubuque doctors were concerned with my progesterone levels where lower than what I should have been at. So, they did give me a script and told me to take them until I seen my doctors in Iowa City. I start announcing to everyone we are expecting as it is after the 12-week mark and heartbeat, and everything was good. I thought we were out of the woods. We go out of town to a waterpark I had been very sick with a cough and terrible cough. I had to many doctors I am not getting better I am finally put on medication and get some relief. We go out of town for our annual family vacation to the dells. Mind you I am very careful and take things easy. Have had no issues been feeling baby flutters all seemed well. I go to my Iowa City appt. and thought all was ok. Until I see not blue and red on the ultrasound when the tech was looking for the heartbeat. My heart sank! I go where is the heartbeat, she goes I am not sure can we do transvaginal. I said sure! Still no heart rhythm. I start crying they tech says I am so sorry I do not see a heartbeat can you please get dressed and I will have you go down the hallway so no one sees you and the doctor will talk to you. I was at a loss. The next couple hrs seemed like a blur. I am now talking to a doctor about how I am going to have my baby either go home and hope the baby passes on its own. Or wait 7 days and have a d & e / d & c. My husband and I picked the 2nd option as they baby was measuring 18 weeks and the doctor saying passing the baby at home would be too difficult. If I could go back in time, I would change my option as going back home and waiting 7 days to have my baby was an awful sad and lonely experience. I would have asked for a 3rd option on if I could be induced and have the baby that day. Plus, with having the D&E D&C you have no closer as we had asked for pictures of our baby's hands and feet and if we would be able to see our baby and we were told no. Again, this is very traumatizing in itself. Not to mention I am in the room having this procedure alone as my husband is not allowed back during this time. We were giving our baby's foot and handprints which we appreciated, and we were able to know gender. He was a baby boy, and we named him Tate James. Hints our teams name Tater Chips.