March 3, 2019
THIS IS FOR YOU, MY BEST FRIEND, LORI
MY VERY BEST FRIEND, LORI
Just after New Year's in 1988 I lost my father. I was 6. In September of that same year I started the 2nd grade. It was a normal day at school until a teacher walked over to me with this little light blonde girl, with a slighly runny nose and a horse voice. She was shy and looking down at her feet. She was new in town, the teacher told me how she thought we would be great friends. I don't remember who this teacher was but I will tell you she was absolutely right. She just introduced me to one of the greatest people that will forever be a part of my life. This teacher just introduced me to my very best friend, Lori. And Lori gave me the greatest gift anyone could give, she gave me her friendship. She came to be at the perfect time in my life. Through the years of school and several slumber parties it was always Lori and Denise. As we got older and had our growing pains we drifted apart, yet always found our way back to each other. These drifts were tests and the fact that we always picked up where we left off was proof that we were ment to be best friends for forever. She was my maid of honor at my wedding and stood by my side as I married my husband. She helped me move into our new house and even helped paint the rooms inside! She was one of the first people to come over and visit me after I got home from the hospital having my cancer removed. I got to help her move into her first condo! She was always there for me and I her. She was first taken from me when I was completely blocked from her in life. She wasn't allowed to be friends with me. Slowly her husband elimimated all of us. Isolating her to be solely his. I never held that against her. I knew she was in a toxic relationship but I didn't know how toxic. I didn't want to make things worse on her so I stayed away. Something I have to live with for the rest of my life. She reached out to be a few times and I always responded. We tried to sneek in visits with each other but he always found out. Once she got the strength to leave him, so contacted me the very next day. "We can be friends again!" Silly Lori, you've always been my friend!!! She apologized to me. I told her she didn't have to. I understood. I held nothing against her. I told her I loved her. I told her that she was irreplaceable in my life. "I will never have another Lori." When she was selfishly taken from me on May 7, 2014, I lost a part of me. Since that day I haven't felt whole. There's an empiness I can't ever shake. When something funny happens that reminds me of her I think, "Oh, I gotta tell Lori." then remember I can't. When I think of all the silly childhood stories we share I realize that I'm the only one that can tell them now. So much of my life was lived with her by my side and now i have no one to reminise about them with. I share these stories with her children. I am so glad that I can, and honored to share. But these are stories that we were suppose to share with them together over cake and coffee. Not me, alone. I hate that. I hate that I have to tell them about their mother instead of them getting to know her. I hate that one man. One selfish horrible man took away these kid's mother. I can't change the past. But I can help change someone's present. I donate my time and money to BH Care so that they can help those currently living in toxic enviornments. So that they can safely leave their abuser and restart their lives. So that one less best friend has to share stories all alone. So that one less child has to hear about their parent instead of getting know to their parent. I ask simply if you can share my page, please. Help me get the word out. And if you can please donate to my page as I am raising money for BH Care to help others find shelter and given the means to restart their lives with a new job, new cloths, new housing, and a sense of saftey. Something they haven't had a in long time. I lost my very best friend that day. But a daughter, a sister, a niece, a cousin, a mother were all lost as well. Please help make it just one less by sharing my page or donating. Thank you very much!!
PLEASE HELP ME RAISE MONEY FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
It's that time of year again! I'm volunteering my time and money to BHCare Bowl-2-Benefit the Umbrella Foundation to help those that are victims of Domestic Violence. I lost my very best friend of nearly 30 years to a selfish act of domestic violence almost 5 years ago. Now I help, along side her family, to raise money and awareness of Domestic Violence and help those in toxic home environments know that there are safe places out there for them. Please help by donating to my page or simply sharing my fundraising page on your page to help spread the word. Thank you!